Loneliness Tips from Dr Nihara Krause, Clinical Pyschologist & CEO/Founder of stem4

Many of us are aware that loneliness can have a negative impact on mental health. Indeed, feelings of loneliness can trigger depression and anxiety. In turn, poor mental health can also contribute to isolation and loneliness, since it often stops people from being able to join in activities they may otherwise enjoy and impacts confidence.

There are many life changes that can increase loneliness, including starting something new such as a new school or college, university, moving home/country, or the distancing/breakup of a relationship. In particular, the pandemic has contributed to a huge sense of loneliness. Not only might we not be able to see our loved ones, it is also difficult to meet new friends or maintain our existing friendships, due to the isolation imposed by safety measures. Being excluded from participating in group activities like team sport, having to work from home away from colleagues, or not being able to attend classes have also participated in increasing loneliness for many groups of people. Further, experiencing loss through ill health can make us feel isolated and alone.

Certain times of year can also be lonely. Loneliness at Christmas is not new. However, this year it is likely that many more people will be lonely as a result of ill health, isolation, quarantine or loss.

For everyone feeling lonely this year, here are some tips to help combat loneliness amidst the festive period:

  • Virtual connections are better than none. Setting up regular contact, calling a friend whilst out for a walk, or even writing letters the old-fashioned way should all help if carried out regularly.
  • Try learning a new hobby. Perhaps something that helps you connect to someone you know, or a group of new people. If restrictions allow, try to pick a regular activity that gets you out of the home and preferably around people.
  • Volunteering helps your connections – donate a little love, and who knows what you will get in return.
  • If you are in a new situation, try to make sure you connect with someone new around you. For example, a room-mate at university.
  • If you know someone is also on their own, suggest meeting up with them. You could play a game of cards, watch a movie or even learn a new craft together. This can be done virtually too.
  • Catch self-defeating thoughts which can play most of the time when you are on your own. Try to work through them. You can use the Clear Fear app to work through your anxious thoughts.
  • Have some tasks you can do when you catch yourself overthinking in a negative way.
  • Show up to meetings with others, even if it is an effort.
  • Try and make someone else’s day with a smile.

If you are worried about your mental health, particularly over the festive period, please reach out for help using some of our Further Advice helplines & resources.